can anyone help

[mrs lisa tandy]

Hello,
my name is mrs tandy and this site was recommended to me,as i was told it was very useful.
My son is 13 and is adhd and as autism,up until now i have dealt with him very easily as he was a pleasent child.however since puberty kicked in he as become increasingly violent,often hitting his siblings as well as myself.As anyone got any ideas how to stop this or help me cope with this better.I love my son very much,but can not cope with such violent behaviour,i am in contact often with social services and other sorces,but would like parent to parent advice,
thank you,

[purplehaze]

Hi, from experience and talking to others this can be common when children start puberty and hormones kick in!

Do you use visual cues/supports at home-they may help with house rules eg, no kicking/hitting etc.
You also need to find out what the behaviour is about if you know what is triggering it you may be able to help him deal with his emotions.

Are there any consequences to his behaviour if so think about whether they are suitable.

I know how difficult it can be with the behaviour of a teenager with autism X

[tayomismo]

my 10 year old son is showing violence too. he is hitting me each time he got tantrums

[Janice Adamson]

As a parent of AD/HD children as well as some within the spectrum I can empathize with your situation.

I've dealt with mobile crisis teams, counselling, psychiatrists. psychologists, developmental pediatricians etc. You name it, I've been there, I am there myself. I've had home educators, family services, parenting classes and family support workers (to name a few!) I'd recommend that you read "The Explosive Child" by Ross W. Greene, Ph.D. - The book gives perspective and new approaches for understanding easily frustrated, chronically inflexible children. I have read through this book numerous times, and found it very helpful. In fact it's so popular where I live, I had to order it in!

Having worked in social services myself, I'm also trained in Non-Violent Crisis Intervention. I've had to deal with restraining my children... sometimes for hours at a time,- holes in the walls, broken doors and of course the physical violence... both to themselves and others.

Hang in there! ... If you ever need to talk or just plain vent, feel free to send me a msg. anytime ☻